I had a realization the other day.

If someone is supposed to be in your life, you can’t make them leave.

No matter how much you mess up, you try to push them away, you try to sabotage your relationship, if they’re meant to be in your life, they’re going to love you through it and you just can’t make them leave.

And on the flip side if someone leaves easily, no matter what you do, you can’t make them stay.

So I say quit trying to make people stay who don’t belong in your life.

Stop trying to force things with the wrong people and start noticing how much grace the right people give you.

Start paying attention to the fact that the people who truly love you, the people who are truly supposed to be in your life, will accept you and love you and love you and accept you over and over again no matter what you do.

And stop focusing on those people who, no matter how much you try to hold onto them, are going to run away.

Start to focus on the people that no matter how much you mess up, no matter how much you’re unconditionally and unapologetically yourself, they’re sticking around and they’re into you and that’s awesome.

You don’t have to convince anyone to stay in your life.

You don’t have to convince a boss that you’re a good employee. You don’t have to convince your boyfriend or girlfriend that you’re a great person. You don’t have to convince a friend that you’re worth hanging out with.

You are a gift. You are a blessing. You are amazing.

You’re not perfect.

But the perfect people for you accept you even though you’re not perfect.

You have a lot to offer and if someone doesn’t want that and they don’t want you, that’s not rejection. It might feel like rejection, but it’s actually proof. It’s evidence that they’re not right for you, that they don’t belong in your life, that they don’t deserve to be in your life.

The right people for you will be in your life no matter what you do, you can’t make them leave. You can try, but don’t sabotage these relationships. Pay attention if you’re going above and beyond to try to get them out of your life, because maybe you’re overwhelmed with these good feelings.

Why does this person like me so much? This is weird.

Don’t be surprised that there are people that want to celebrate you. There are people that want to spend time with you. There are people that want to love you.

And even if you don’t totally let that in, the right people will see that and be patient. And see that as you start to let that in and as you stop forcing things and as you start to see your gift the way that they see your gift, some pretty amazing things are going to happen.

And remember, your destiny, your fate, your future is not tied to those people who left. Your worth is not correlated with the people who didn’t stay in your life. All that was is you giving too much attention, too much priority, too much emotion to the wrong people and not enough attention and priority and emotion and gratitude for the people who are in your life.

So if you’re thinking about a job, a relationship, something in your life that escaped you…

Say, Good Riddance.

Adios.

Hit the road, Jack.

And start looking around in your life and seeing all the amazing things that are there.

Start thanking that, start celebrating that, start noticing that no matter who you are and what you do, that goodness, that acceptance, that love, that joy, that celebration isn’t going anywhere.